So let’s start at the beginning. What’s a celebrity? Simple answer: someone who is famous during his or her lifetime. No big surprise, I am not a celebrity…but there’s still hope for me yet. Although, as an author, I’d rather be in the comfort of my own home writing romantic suspense novels, than in the limelight of the red carpet events.
When I was younger, I used to follow more of the gossip magazines and knew which celebrity was dating who and who got married and then divorced and it was sort of an escape from daily life. Then I grew up so to speak and my life took on its own busy whirlwind of activity in my little section of the universe and I didn’t have as much time to pay attention to those goings-on of the celebrities. It’s not like anyone would notice my absence from cyber stalking anyone of them.
Consider these two “news” articles on Jessica Biel and how she became Mrs. Justin Timberlake: Jessica Biel makes her first appearance since becoming Mrs. Timberlake and also an article on the ups and downs of the relationship between Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart: Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart go their separate ways — for now So who cares right? Well, a lot of people care. These actors are in the “news” and they’re trending online. People are searching out information on them and want to know what’s going on in their lives.
The real questions are: should we actually care about the lives of celebrities in that we need to know every last detail—and why do we care?
According to Dr. Fran Walfish, a Beverly Hills psychotherapist and the author of "The Self-Aware Parent,” the reason so many fans become obsessed with celebrities and their love lives is because “they wish to enhance excitement and sexuality in their own lives.” Obviously, if fans are obsessing over the love lives of celebrities, they haven’t found true fulfillment in their own lives.
Of course, you can be a fan and enjoy reading about what’s going on in celebrities’ lives and not “be obsessed” with them and their love lives. Obsession is usually triggered by an event or traumatic experience and can throw someone off the balance of normal reality versus fantasy ideals. This type of obsessive behavior can lead to stalking and possible harm if the fantasy is not fulfilled.
We all need to believe in dreams and have hopes, desires and fantasies, but they all need to be joined with a good sense of reality and enjoyment and acceptance of our own lives.