Moving Through Grief During Christmas
by Melodie Haas
My mom passed away last year on December 26th. I spent most of Christmas with her not really thinking she was going to pass, but on December 26th she passed. Part of me felt like she wanted to go and spend time with Jesus on His birthday—she loves good food. I also lost my dog this past summer.
Grief has no timetable. Each person will deal with it in their own way, and that is ok since God made each of us so special. I really wasn’t sure how I was going to handle Christmas—I really thought it would not bother me too much, but it does. Sometimes the smallest thing will remind me of my mom. I am a visual person. My go-to vice is to spend money, but I am trying to get out of credit card debt, so I have been praying for self-control.
I did get a new dog, Jasmine. She has helped me to get out of my house and showed me love that I needed. Jasmine was the best thing I could have done for myself. She is my co-pilot and goes just about everywhere with me. She doesn’t do well with other dogs so when I visit my friend in town I just leave her in the car. Well, it’s become her own drive thru since everyone will give her a treat!!!
I asked people on my Facebook what should I do. I do not want to be here where I live during Christmas time, but I don’t want to spend a lot of money to leave. I had no idea this would turn into my monthly column for Pandora’s Box Gazette.
Here are some suggestions I got. Go to a spa or Airbnb for one night that allows dogs. Do something that my mom would have liked to do. Some people invited me to their house.
Whatever I do, I know that God has my back and will be with me. In my journey of grief, I have not been alone, even if I feel that way sometimes. His love for me is never-ending.
How do you deal with grief during Christmas or any other time of the year?
About the Author
Melodie Haas is a retired Veteran who loves Jesus. She is attending Liberty University online MAIS. She writes a blog about finding savings or hacks.
You can read Melodie’s “Hacking Life” column on the 2nd Friday each month here at Pandora’s Box Gazette.