Beacon of Hope: How to Manage Stress
by Paula W. Thomas, BMHC
We all experience physical, emotional, and spiritual exhaustion at some time in our lives. There will be interruptions, delays, or some type of problem that will set us over the edge. In our society today, it is typical that we try to get more done in less time with good results. We juggle the demands of home, church, work, and family life. Stress has a way of dampening our spirits and setting our nerves on edge. This can lead to a weakened immune system and make us prone to more illnesses and stress related problems. When we are stressed out, we tend to take it out on our spouse, our kids, and even sometimes on our friends.
We must learn to manage stress especially in the society we live in. Regardless of our occupation, our age, social status, or lifestyle we are going to have stress. Everything seems to be on a fast track these days. It’s hurry, hurry, and hurry some more.
Even the way we eat is in a hurry. We need to ask ourselves how much time do we really spend with our family or relaxing and taking a breather? When was the last time you had dinner as a family? I venture to guess that the answer would be very little. Is it any wonder that we get so stressed out?
I do have to say that some of it we bring on ourselves, from poor planning or being unorganized. These are the things we have control over. Now on the other hand we can’t control the weather, our computer breaking down, or some unexpected difficulties. In those cases, we need to learn to take a deep breath and realize that there is nothing we can do about it.
Stress has a way of moving us to the things that are wrong in our lives. Have you ever thought about the fact that we spend so much time on things that matter least that we forget to focus on the things that really matter? We need to decide what is really important to us and then prioritize them. Life is so full of choices isn’t it?
When we decide what is important, we can also say no to the things that are not. I think a lot of the time we have a problem saying no to someone. Why is that? Is it because we feel guilty if we say no? Or is it because we don’t want people to think badly of us?
If we do not learn to control stress it will eventually control us. In order to protect our bodies, we need to get enough rest. We need to exercise on a regular basis. Even walking for thirty minutes works wonders. Oh, and let’s not forget about eating well. When you do feel stressed remove yourself from the situation. Find a quiet place and just take a deep breath.
In Philippians 4:6-7 it says: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made know to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Jesus Christ.”
Take time each day to be alone with God. Having a planned time of quietness away from everyone is a really good balance to a busy life.
Paula W. Thomas, BMHC
About the Author
Paula Thomas, BMCH is a Wife, Mother of 9, and grandmother of 11. Paula is a Deans List graduate from Rutgers University with a Bachelor of Social Work, (BSW) and is a Board Certified Mental Health Coach. With over 40+ years of personal and business experience Paula has a wealth of knowledge and lessons learned to share. During her career Paula has worked for Christian Homes for Children, Agape Family Center, Christian Life Center, and Thomas Kids Klub Day Care.
Paula has extensive experience working with parents and children. Paula works with individuals, parenting groups, or parents and children together. Every relationship is different, and Paula will help the parents or caregiver to enhance their current home life and communication to create a more peaceful living environment for everyone involved.
Over the years, Paula has been involved in volunteering in multiple Youth and Kids Ministries and helping out at Chosen 300 providing meals on a weekly basis and ministering to those in need. As a mother and grandmother Paula has a strong understanding of children. As an Advocate for Children, Paula will help ensure the children she works with receive the attention and understanding they need in order to grow and believe in themselves. Children need to have someone who is willing to listen and help them communicate what they are thinking, feeling, seeing, and living through.
It is our belief that children need a stable environment to grow and someone who can help them navigate and understand various situations they come across.