Do You Like to Be Told What to Do?

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Do You Like to Be Told What to Do?

I Don’t, But That’s in Conflict with Being a Christian

by J.M. Troppello

I’ve never liked being told what to do. As a child, I’ve always been very independent. Instead of being told what to do, I enjoyed telling others what to do. That didn’t always work out so well. As an older child, I had to help out with my younger siblings when my mom was at work, and we were home alone. She was a single mother and I needed to take responsibility as an older sibling.

Even in my marriage, I haven’t handled it well when my husband would say this is what we’re doing in the beginning of our marriage. That led to a lot of conflict. We’ve since learned to compromise. I told him that I don’t mind it for him to take the leadership role in our marriage—which is what God has designed. However, I just want him to hear me out and let me have a voice – not just to dismiss my thoughts.

We had an argument about church recently. He said that he didn’t like it and wanted to start attending somewhere else. I told him that I didn’t want to leave yet until we knew where we were going to move to so that we could be close in location to the new church. I said that I felt in my heart that this was not going to be ‘our church’ forever and that God had another church for us to attend.

Then I said something that stopped him cold.

I said, “I’ll follow you anywhere if I know that you are spiritually in line with God, you’re praying about the direction we should go, and you’re led by the Holy Spirit.”

He didn’t know what to say about that at first.

I remained quiet. He seemed to let that thought sink in. Then he said okay. He seemed to be at peace with my response. I guess it must have meant something to him since he’s been doing better at cultivating his spiritual walk since.

Now, I don’t want you to get the wrong idea. He isn’t controlling. We both just got married later in life – me when I was 30 and him when he was 36. That meant that we both were extremely set in our ways. We had a lot of ‘growing up’ to do even though we were both adults.

Walking in Humility Before God

Not wanting to be told what to do has hindered my spiritual walk with the Lord. It’s taken me longer to listen when He speaks – and obey His commands. I told my husband once that the difficulties we encountered in our marriage – due to getting married later in life and being set in our own ways – was used by God to mold me and grow my spiritual life. He feels the same way about how God has been growing him.

If you’re a Christian, you need to allow Jesus to be Lord of your life. I’ve been a Christian for 34 years and I’m still learning how to let Jesus be Lord of my life. I think that’s normal. We’re all human. We have our own wills. However, some people probably have an easier time than others in submitting to God’s will for their life.

I beseech[a] you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your [b]reasonable service. 2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. (Romans 12:1-2, NKJV)

This passage from Romans 12:1-2 depicts this process of presenting your body as a living sacrifice to God. Paul states that this is your reasonable service. As a Christian, you must not be conformed to this world. Instead, you need to be renewing your mind with the Word of God. That is how you will find the good and acceptable and perfect will of God.

He wants you to delve deeper into His Word each day so that you can discover all that He has to say to you. God wants you to spend time in prayer and daily communion with Him so that He can whisper into your heart and guide your every step.

God can do all that. However, you must decide whether or not you are a willing participant on this journey of faith. Your faith journey didn’t stop when you got saved. That was only the beginning. Each day should be a day that brings you one step closer in your walk with the Lord. I’m on this journey right along with you—thankful for God’s grace—one step at a time.

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JM Troppello in Mustard Seed Sentinel

J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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