Being a Victor Not a Victim
Trusting God to Bring You Through Trials in Life
by Joanne Troppello
“Heavenly Father, use this until you choose to remove it.” – Andy Stanley
When I heard Andy Stanley say that statement in one of his sermon series posted on his YouTube channel, it made me stop and think. Could I actually say that prayer and truly mean it?
That’s a hard prayer to pray. It means you truly surrender your will to God. You’re trusting Him to bring you through trials in your life—through them, not over, passed, or avoiding them.
Trials and difficulties in life are inevitable. Becoming a Christian does not mean that you won’t have tribulations anymore. Sometimes, you get even more times of testing of your faith.
Becoming a Victor, not a Victim
I’ve been a Christian for 33 years. I did not always have a mindset of the victor. Many times, in my new walk in the Lord I felt like a victim. I grew up in a dysfunctional family, made poor financial decisions in my personal life and then together with my husband made similar choices—and we’ve been dealing with the consequences of those actions.
Several years ago, during a Bible study that my husband and I led in our home, this topic came up of walking victoriously through trials. My husband and I had a breakthrough moment. We were amongst close friends in our small group and felt comfortable sharing honestly. We asked each other for forgiveness about our individual roles in getting to the financial mess we were in. My husband voiced for the first time that he was sorry for holding my decisions against me for many years. I apologized for being angry with him because he had resented my part in the issue.
That was the beginning of a mindset shift in my life. God showed me that I needed to become a victor in Christ, not living in the flesh like a victim of my circumstances—some we caused, and others that close family had inflicted on us.
“You can’t expect to be a ‘victor’ if you’re living with a ‘victim’ mentality.” – Billy Cox
How to Become a Victor, not a Victim
“I am not what has happened to me. I am what I choose to become.” – Carl Jung
If you want to live victoriously in Christ, you need to decide to become a victor and not live as a victim. My husband and I moved through the following steps on our journey toward becoming victors in the Lord.
The journey begins with you. To succeed, you must decide to make a change in your mindset. No one can make this decision for you. As a Christian, you have a new mindset in Christ, according to true righteousness and holiness.
20 But you have not so learned Christ, 21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness. 25 Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,” for we are members of one another. – Ephesians 4:20-25 (NKJV)
Once you’ve decided to live as a victor in Christ, you need to devour the Word of God. Read the Bible when you first wake up and before you go to bed. Make a plan to start memorizing scriptures that are relevant to your current situation (i.e., you need to grow in your faith, sin has a hold on your life, or you need to change direction to follow God’s path).
16 All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for [a]instruction in righteousness, 17 that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work. – II Timothy 3:16-17 (NKJV)
Find an accountability partner to help you through this journey. Make sure this person is trustworthy and won’t gossip about your issues. If you belong to a small group at church, it’s ideal to share with someone you already know and trust. You and I are better together.
Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted. 2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. 3 For if anyone thinks himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceives himself. 4 But let each one examine his own work, and then he will have rejoicing in himself alone, and not in another. 5 For each one shall bear his own load. – Galatians 6:1-5 (NKJV)
You cannot walk in a victor mentality unless you decide to change your mindset. You must renew your mind in God’s Word (Romans 12:2) and be transformed by it so that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God. Devouring God’s Word will give you the strength and power to make the positive changes that are necessary to carry you toward a new beginning as a victor and not a victim. Working with an accountability partner will enhance the journey and cultivate deeper growth.
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel. Connect with Joanne on Twitter. You can find Joanne on these social media channels—Twitter, Facebook, Parler, Spreely, and Clouthub—with the same username, @JoanneTroppello—and @joannetroppello.mseedsentinel on Instagram. Visit the Mustard Seed Sentinel YouTube Channel. Check out MSS Live Well Corner.