Inspiration Corner: How to Become a Better Human

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How to Become a Better Human

5 Ways to Grow as an Individual

by J.M. Troppello

“Growth is the great separator between those who succeed and those who do not. When I see a person beginning to separate themselves from the pack, it’s almost always due to personal growth.” – John C. Maxwell

I used to have an anger management problem. However, once I learned 3 Ways to Become More Emotionally Mature—respond, don’t react; listen more; and practice mindfulness—my emotional intelligence (EI) level increased.

Emotionally intelligent adults do the following things in their daily lives:

  • Respond maturely rather than react immaturely

  • Listen more than they talk so they can understand people

  • Utilize mindfulness to help stabilize their rocky emotions

  • Refrain from consistently interrupting during conversations

  • Understand different personalities and how to interact better

  • Rarely bring up past hurts to spite someone in their life

  • Cultivate the mindset that positivity breeds more positivity

  • Desire to learn something new each day and share that information

  • Embrace compassion and try to show empathy to others

  • Value civility and want to hear other viewpoints and understand them

  • Seek peaceful resolutions through compromise and kindness

If you want to become a better human, that journey begins with taking a self-evaluation to identify who you truly are as a person. Consider the following 5 ways that you can grow as an individual—and implement the 11 traits of an emotionally intelligent adult.

CAVEAT: There is no judgment here. My journey of personal growth to increase my EI took years. I’m continually striving to grow each day. No one is perfect. Be courageous and truthful on your journey of self-discovery. Yet, always reward yourself when you’ve changed your behavior in significant ways.

1. Choice

Personal growth only happens by choice. No one can force you to make positive and productive changes in your life. If you want to increase your EI, the choice is yours.

That thought should scare you yet invigorate you all the same.

Just imagine how much more productive you can be in your personal and professional life if you commit to a lifelong journey to become a better human.

The choice is yours.

2. Strategy

If you want to succeed in your journey of personal growth and development, you need to implement a strategy that will work for your specific lifestyle and current circumstances.

My strategy began when my friend gave me a book on learning how to implement boundaries in my life. I needed to stand up for myself and not always give in when others in my life guilted me into doing what they wanted. I needed to stand on my own two feet and learn how to deal with conflict in a peaceful way without yelling and having an adult tantrum.

Take an introspective look into your life. Define your strengths and weaknesses. Identify areas when you need personal growth. Begin with simple fixes. Don’t start with climbing the big mountains yet.

3. Action

My action plan took root when I read about different personalities. I needed to know why I had been failing miserably in understanding the differences between the people in my life. I took an online personality test. I read books on different personalities. That helped me to understand why people acted the way they did—and how I should respond maturely.

You can find free personality tests by searching online. Consider adding the following books to your reading list:

  • The DNA of Relationships by Dr. Gary Smalley

  • The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

  • Deadly Emotions by Dr. Don Colbert

Those books were huge resources for me. I learned so much from the comprehensive information in each book. I actually started rereading the Deadly Emotions book recently because I needed to be reminded of what I’d learned years ago.

4. Accountability

Your journey toward becoming a better human will be enriched if you have an accountability partner by your side. Make sure this person is a trusted individual. You don’t want all your secrets shared within your circle of family or friends, or worse yet, shared online.

“Accountability is the glue that ties the commitment to the result.” – Bob Proctor

When you work with an accountability partner, you can increase your chances of success in your endeavors. This person is committing to challenge you, provide motivation, remind you of your goals, see things you can’t see, and encourage you not to quit.

5. Evaluation

Every successful endeavor includes evaluation in the action plan. If you never evaluate your process and results, you won’t get an accurate assessment of how well or not well you did.

Include the following things in your evaluation process:

  • Honest assessment

  • Second opinion

  • Detailed review

  • Revamped action plan

  • Motivation to continue

Work with your accountability partner throughout this entire process, but especially during the evaluation. This person has a different perspective and can bring a neutral vision to the evaluation.

Become a Better Human

“You will encounter misguided people from time to time. That’s part of life. The challenge is to educate them when you can, but always to keep your dignity and self-respect and persevere in your personal growth and development.” – Bernice King

Becoming a better human is possible, but it takes diligent effort. Make a choice, create a strategy, implement your action plan, value accountability, and execute an evaluation of the process.

Start your journey to become a better person today. Stop making excuses. The time for change begins now.

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About the Author

J.M. Troppello at Mustard Seed Sentinel

J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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