How to Find the Silver Linings in Life
Trying to Seek the Positive in the Negative Things
by J.M. Troppello
“The same wind that blows down your house shakes berries from the bushes.” – Marci Ridlon
I am a glass half-full type of person. I’ve always been able to see the silver linings in my life. Yes, I know that bad things happen. I’ve had many negative things happen to me.
However, seeing the positive in negative situations is very easy for me.
Cultivating this mindset in my life has helped me thrive—rather than just survive—even in negative situations. I’ve learned that there are three major factors in being able to seek the positive in the negative things.
“Finding a silver lining is a choice.” – Elizabeth Messina
You have choices to make every day. You can choose to positively respond to people and situations, instead of negatively reacting to them. Cultivating and maintaining a positive attitude in life is a choice.
Being thankful doesn’t just happen. You need to want to be grateful. Focus on making the right choices that lead you on the path of positivity and not negativity.
Choosing to seek silver linings can enhance your personal and professional life. You’ll be able to improve your relationships with people and offer more grace—and have the emotional maturity to set boundaries when necessary.
Evaluate your decision-making process. Start making choices that positively impact you and those around you. Life will be sweeter if you choose to focus on the positive and not the negative.
“Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting gold.” – Maurice Setter
Expectations are good, but they can also be bad. When you have unrealistic expectations, you will be disappointed when things don’t turn out the way you wanted them to.
It’s best to have realistic expectations. Then you won’t encounter as many situations where you are disappointed, like when you had unrealistic expectations.
That quote by Maurice Setter is so true. If you focus on finding the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow in every situation in life, you won’t be able to see the silver linings—when life turns out differently than you expected.
Yes, you should still be hopeful.
Just remember to temper your hopefulness with reality. For example, if you enter marriage with the mindset that life is going to be an endless honeymoon, you’ll be sorely mistaken. It’s better to be realistic. Of course, you have expectations for your spouse to honor their wedding vows, etc. However, putting lofty expectations on them will not end well for your marriage.
“You have to do everything you can. If you stay positive, you have a shot at a silver lining.” – Pat Solitanohas (Silver Linings Playbook)
Your mindset is a powerful thing. It can be a goldmine for you or a journey chasing fool’s gold. When you focus on cultivating a positive mindset, you are more likely to see the good things in life.
If you cultivate a negative mindset, you will focus on the bad things in life. You’ll have a more difficult time finding the silver linings. Develop an attitude of gratitude. Feed your soul good things like positive self-help books and articles, TV shows, videos, and music that inspires you.
It takes self-discipline to cultivate a positive mindset. However, if you do, that will become an invaluable investment of time—yielding good results.
Finding Your Silver Linings
Make the choice today to seek the positive in the negative things in life. Temper your expectations. Then you won’t be disappointed with what you don’t have. But you’ll be pleasantly surprised by what you do get. Cultivate a positive mindset and that will change the trajectory of your life to one that is filled with more fulfillment.
About the Author
J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
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