How to Rebound from Failure
Motivating Yourself to Succeed When Life Stinks
by Joanne Troppello
“A failure is not always a mistake, it may simply be the best one can do under the circumstances. The real mistake is to stop trying.” – B.F. Skinner
Have you ever felt like a failure? Like everything you’re trying is not working. Maybe you’ve heard the quote by Albert Einstein: “The definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result.” You may have tried different things and still feel like a failure at all of them. I know the feeling and have had to rebound from failure before and try to motivate myself to succeed even when life stinks.
Steps to Rebound from Failure
William Whewell said, “Every failure is a step to success.” I believe that too. Things may look bad now, but if you never try again, you won’t ever know what you could have been if you had continued trying.
1. Seek the Lord
As a Christian, my first step in rebounding from failure is to seek the Lord. It’s important to take a step back and assess the situation. During this process of seeking the Lord, it’s crucial to stay open to what God wants to show you.
I’ve been there before where God revealed something to me, and I didn’t really want to acknowledge it at first. However, God is patient with us and that still small voice of the Holy Spirit will continue to speak to you. Just remember to stay open. The more you push God away, the less you’ll be able to hear His voice.
2. Life Isn’t Over
As I mentioned in one of my previous articles, sometimes I can have a Diva mentality and get overly dramatic about things. Years ago, when I was finally able to admit that to myself, it felt like a weight was lifted from my shoulders because I recognized my faults and wanted to grow from them.
A big factor in rebounding from failure is to remind yourself that life isn’t over. Things may not have gone as planned. You failed, but you can try again. Being overly dramatic about your failure will not serve you well. It will only hinder your progress in trying again in whatever new activity or venture you’d like to try.
3. At Least You’re Trying
If you have failed at something, at least you’ve succeeded at trying. That may seem like an insignificant consolation prize as you work through your frustrations from failing. However, take comfort in the fact that you had the confidence to step outside your comfort zone and try something new.
Remember, it’s all about perspective. You can focus on the fact that you failed, or you can focus on the fact that you tried something new. The mindset that focuses on any silver linings you can find in your situation, will help you to try again—and not allow the failure to impede any future successes.
4. Control What You Can
Sometimes you fail due to circumstances or factors that are out of your control. When those things happen, you need to realize that you are still enough and cannot be controlled by things outside your control.
Take a step back to reset. Analyze the situation and concentrate on the factors that are currently in your control like your drive to succeed and the talents God has given you, and the skills you’ve developed through the years.
5. Get Over the Word Failure
No one likes the word failure. Generally, most people want to succeed and enjoy a fulfilling life. However, when you’ve failed more than once at different goals you’ve set out to achieve, failure can become a word symbolizing future disappointment.
Get over the word failure by starting to see yourself as God sees you.
“I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.” – Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)
God loves you as the fearfully and wonderfully made unique individual that you are. Embrace that fact. Allow it to permeate your being and give you peace as you work towards success in your next endeavor.
Don’t allow failure to stagnate future growth and success in your life. Have you overcome any failures in your life?
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
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