Lies You Tell Yourself
Seeking to See the Truth Reflected in Your Soul
by Joanne Troppello
“The truth will only offend those who would rather defend lies.” – Carlos Wallace
Have you ever told yourself any lies? You know, things like it’s not so bad, referring to the mess you’d gotten yourself into. Or it’s only a white lie or sinning in this area is not as bad as other “major” sins. (By the way, sin is sin, no matter what you’ve done. All sin separates you from God.)
I’ve fallen into the trap of telling myself lies. Some lies like those mentioned above and also others. You can read more about putting away childish things in my article, Looking in the Mirror.
Yet, there are some lies I’ve told myself that are not from God. They are from the devil. They are from my flesh when depression sets in or I feel like a failure because I’ve tried many times, but couldn’t overcome that sin, or I’ve failed for the tenth time at trying to accomplish a goal (all on my own strength, and not with the power of the Holy Spirit).
Be Open to See the Truth
Regardless of the origin of the lie, you need to stop telling yourself lies. You won’t be able to move forward as an emotionally intelligent adult and spiritually mature Christian if you continue to lie to yourself.
It’s vital that you stay open to see the truth about yourself. You can do that by implementing the following steps in your daily routine.
1. Stay Connected to God in Prayer
This is a vital factor in helping you not to tell lies to yourself. When you are connected to God, through daily communication with Him, you will be more susceptible to hear the voice of the Holy Spirit’s conviction in your life.
When you continually lie to yourself, that can make you feel convicted, but you might not be open to seeing the truth about yourself – and how you need to confess that sin and make things right again in your relationship with the Lord.
I know when I’ve been lying to myself, trying to convince myself that the path I’m on is not contrary to God’s will for my life – but that it has hindered my relationship with the Lord. I’ve felt like Adam and Eve (Genesis 2 and 3) hiding from God in the Garden of Eden because they ate fruit from the Tree of the Knowledge of good and evil – and they knew they’d sinned. They deeply felt that disconnect with God.
8 And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and Adam and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. 9 Then the Lord God called to Adam and said to him, “Where are you?”10 So he said, “I heard Your voice in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; and I hid myself.” – Genesis 3:8-10 (NKJV)
Yet, when I’ve confessed my sin or lies that I’ve been telling myself, to God, there was a lightness in my spirit, and I felt connected to God again. He still loved me through all the lies I’ve told myself. I didn’t lose my salvation, but my connection to Him was hindered.
2. Be Open to Truth from God’s Word
Another way to remain open to seeing the truth through any lies you’ve told yourself is to stay fed with the Word of God. Read your Bible each day. Study it. Now, I have faltered and haven’t read it every day of my life through my 33 years as a Christian. I’m not perfect. No one is.
However, especially in recent years, I have tried to remain faithful to my daily devotional time. Currently, I am reading through the book of Psalms. I’ve never read through the entire book of Psalms before, so it’s been interesting. The most interesting part of it is that I read through a Psalm (in consecutive order through the book of Psalms) or read a portion of verses if it’s a longer Psalm. Then I read the corresponding notes from the NKJV Thomas Nelson Study Bible that I have.
It’s been SO eye opening to not only read the scripture passages, but to also study them by reading the notes about the verses, and sometimes going off on trails of reading related Bible verses.
3. Stay Connected to an Accountability Partner
The third way that you can stay connected to the truth and not telling yourself lies, is to stay connected to an accountability partner. I have a few: my husband, sister, and mom. Depending on the issue, I decide on which person to confide in.
When you look for an accountability partner, it’s important to choose someone who is close to you, but also able to be neutral when they need to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15) to you.
Choose someone who you know won’t give in to the temptation to gossip about you. Just imagine sharing a deep secret or sin issue and having it shared all among your church or circle of friends.
Having an accountability partner can be so helpful in getting you back on track with your connection to God and His will for your life.
Start Telling Yourself the Truth
“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” – John 8:32 (NKJV)
For reference to that well-known verse, you need to read verse 31: “Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, ‘If you abide in My Word, you are My disciples indeed.”
Notice how Jesus said that you will know the truth and be set free by the truth IF you abide in His Word.
You can read in John 1:1-3 that Jesus is the Word.
“In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was in the beginning with God. All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made that was made.” – John 1:1-3 (NKJV)
So, when you abide in Jesus (through prayer, daily Bible reading, and daily communion with the Lord), you will be set free by the TRUTH. I want that. I want the truth in my life. I hope you are on the same journey with me to abide in Jesus so that the truth will set you free.
Have you been telling yourself lies? Has Jesus set you free with His truth?
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel. Connect with Joanne on Twitter. You can find Joanne on these social media channels—Twitter, Facebook, Parler, Spreely, and Clouthub—with the same username, @JoanneTroppello—and @joannetroppello.mseedsentinel on Instagram. Visit the Mustard Seed Sentinel YouTube Channel. Check out MSS Live Well Corner.