Have You Allowed Anger to Derail Your Life?
Become a Better Person, not a Bitter One
by J.M. Troppello
Anger is a powerful, yet destructive emotion.
15 So they came to Jerusalem. Then Jesus went into the temple and began to drive out those who bought and sold in the temple, and overturned the tables of the money changers and the seats of those who sold doves. 16 And He would not allow anyone to carry wares through the temple. 17 Then He taught, saying to them, “Is it not written, ‘My house shall be called a house of prayer for all nations’? But you have made it a ‘den of thieves.’” (Mark 11:15-17, NKJV)
Yes, Jesus had righteous anger when he overturned the tables of the money changers in the temple. He was rightfully angered by those who made the temple a “den of thieves” when it was supposed to be a “house of prayer.”
Become a Better Person
It’s so important that you strive to become a better person through the power of the Holy Spirit. Don’t allow life, people, and circumstances to make you a bitter person.
Be angry, and do not sin. Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still. Selah (Psalm 4:4, NKJV)
The key factor in handling your anger is to “be angry, and do not sin.”
Don’t bottle down your feelings of anger or you may explode one day and that could become an exponentially worse situation than if you had handled it the right way.
There are times in your life when your anger will be justified.
However, don’t sin in your anger.
Follow the wisdom of Psalm 4:4 and go to a quiet place and meditate within your heart. Focus on God and not your anger. Don’t allow that anger to derail your life.
Three Ways I Deal with Anger
If you’ve been reading any of my articles, you may have read how I admitted that I had an anger management problem in my teens and early twenties. I grew up in a dysfunctional family situation and learned negative ways to handle anger.
Through God’s help, I learned how to develop a higher emotional intelligence level.
I learned about different personalities and how to interact with people in more productive ways.
I learned that I needed to set boundaries in my life and that it was okay to say no—and not be the “yes person” always fulfilling other people’s needs.
I use the following three key steps to help manage anger in a more productive way.
1. Count to Ten
Yes, this sounds like a very basic step. However, when you learn how to respond and not react to people and situations, that radically changes your perspective.
Take a step back. Don’t lash out. Refrain from yelling and swearing when you start to feel angry. You will likely regret anything you do if you do it in anger.
2. Reset My Mindset
In the moment, I focus on calming myself down. I ask God to remind me of scripture passages like Psalm 4:4 about being angry and not sinning in my anger.
It’s important to step back from the situation and think before you speak.
3. Seeing a New Perspective
I have learned how to see things from another person’s perspective. For example, when someone is reacting to me instead of responding, they may be projecting their anger on me because they had a bad day.
Of course, I don’t allow people to walk over me like I did in the past. However, when you try to see things the way other people see them, you can better understand where they’re coming from—and why they are behaving negatively.
Of course, I am not perfect. Yet, I have come a LONG way from the days when acting out in anger was the only way I knew how to act.
I’m so thankful that God got a hold of my life and showed me a better way to interact with people—His way, which leads to positive results.
Don’t allow anger to derail your life.
Nothing good will come from that.
About the Author
J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
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