Envy is Not a Good Look on You
Learning to Embrace What You Have
by J.M. Troppello
Have you ever been envious of what someone else has?
I have. It’s not a fun place to marinate in.
Living in a place of envy in your life will make you lose out on so many good things God has blessed you with.
One of my philosophies in life is that if I want to be happy and not miserable, I need to embrace what I have and not be ungrateful for all the things I don’t have.
I don’t have everything I want in life, but I do have everything I need.
God has truly always provided for my needs in life—food, shelter, and clothing.
There have been times during my childhood and adulthood that food was scarce. But our family always had food to eat. I know I didn’t always like eating PB&J sandwiches or bologna sandwiches. However, it was still a provision of food.
Ways to Embrace an Attitude of Gratitude
“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (I Thess. 5:18, NKJV)
That verse begins with four simple words: In everything give thanks.
What? Can you be serious? Should I give thanks for my annoying relative or difficult health crisis?
I don’t think God expects you to be thankful for every negative thing that happens to you. I think that He wants you to give thanks to Him for getting you through the difficult times. He wants you to be grateful for His provision in the good times and the bad times.
I know sometimes life stinks.
However, I also know that when life has been horrible, that’s when I needed a grateful heart the most.
I can say from experience that in those difficult times when I was able to muster the courage to be grateful—it made all the difference. I was able to pray more. I could worship God through the pain.
Yet, in those difficult times when I didn’t have the courage to be thankful through the negativity, I felt stagnant. I couldn’t pray. I started to blame God. Resentment set in. I became envious of why other people always seemed to have such an easy life.
Water Your Own Grass
You’ve likely heard the expression, “The grass is greener on the other side.” It means that you think your life stinks, but someone else’s life is better than yours. However, you likely have no idea what that person is going through or has gone through to get to where they are.
I was watching TV with my husband the other day. I can’t remember what show we were watching. However, one line that one of the characters said really stuck in my head.
They were discussing this idea of being unhappy and other people have it so good.
Then the one character said, “If you think the grass is greener on their side, start watering yours some more.”
That was so simple, yet profound.
What a concept! If I just figuratively watered the grass on my side, it would grow better, and life would be sweeter.
That idea fits so well into the concept of this article.
Life may stink for you right now. I’m sorry if it does. I can totally understand. However, if you start to embrace the good things that you do have, that can become the catalyst to bring you through to the other side—the greener grass.
If you are having a difficult time being thankful when life stinks, consider doing the following things.
Get a journal and write three things you’re thankful for each day.
Remove negative things in your life like social media, the news, etc.
Make yourself read the Bible each day, even if you only read one verse.
Listen to uplifting music that will improve your mood.
Take a walk or exercise to boost your endorphins and improve your mood.
Talk to a trusted friend and ask them to be your accountability partner.
Spend time in prayer and worship as you redirect your focus to God.
These suggestions have helped me in the past. Hopefully, they’ll encourage you.
About the Author
J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
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