Dealing with Negativity on Social Media
The right mindset is key
by Joanne Troppello
“There are some ignorant people in the world, and if I spend time trying to convince people to think like me, I’ll be wasting valuable time I could use to be growing my business, perfecting my craft as a fighter, watching film, studying, or just enjoying time with my family. Or just sleeping.” – Tyron Woodley
I agree with the sentiments of this quote. It truly resonated with me. A few days ago, I posted the following tweet on all my social media platforms.
I had positive responses on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. However, when I checked my account on the new social media platform that is similar to Facebook, called Spreely, I had notifications from three guys who posted responses that surprised me. One wrote that his “day was good until I started bragging”. Another wrote a long list—in a condescending tone—about all he did that day and called me a profane name.
I could have responded that yeah, my day was a lot busier too. It takes me two hours every day to clean up dinner dishes and make lunches for the next day because we live in a small apartment with no dishwasher and I have to wash and dry everything and put stuff away right away, and that it also took me time to prepare dinner earlier in the day and then an hour to make it. I only share this here because this is the same type of response that he gave me.
Seriously! I was proud of my accomplishments and just wanted to share about them and then ask how other people’s day had gone. I certainly was not expecting reactions like that on Spreely, on Twitter maybe, but not there. I’ve dealt with my fair share of trolls on Twitter. I handled these the same way and just blocked them without comment.
Reacting to Ignorance
I admit, seeing three similar responses at once shook me up a bit. I shared the following tweet on Twitter. Yes, it is somewhat of a rant, but pretty tame compared to what I’ve seen other people post in response to trolls.
I also posted the following image word tweet.
I’m the type of person who overanalyzes things. I’ve gotten better at it through the years, but I still need time to “process” things that happen to me. My husband listened as I vented about it when he came home from work. I’m thankful he is always so understanding when things stress me out.
Turning the Situation Around
Back in April, I wrote an article, How to Be a Christian in a Social Media World. You can click the link to read more about the four tips I shared. However, I do want to repost the overview I had shared in that article of how Christians should act on social media:
Remember that God is always in control amidst the chaos.
Know that facts are important, and you should research everything.
Seek peace whenever possible and don’t make enemies online.
Learn to choose your battles and ignore negative comments.
Understand that people are not perfect, and neither are you.
Don’t choose bitterness when dealing with people online.
Always respond, and never react; think before posting.
Do not be afraid to block ignorant individuals online.
Always pray and trust that God will guide you in all interactions.
This is definitely a reminder that I needed. How do you deal with ignorant people on social media?
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
Connect with Joanne on Twitter. You can find Joanne on these social media channels—Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Parler, Spreely, and Clouthub—with the same username, @JoanneTroppello.