Jo’s Journal: Encourage Someone Today
It Can Mean More Than You Realize
by Joanne Troppello
“Correction does much, but encouragement does more.” – Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
One of my love languages (giving) is encouragement. I learned about the love languages years ago when I read Gary Smalley’s book, The DNA of Relationships. I love to encourage others. That’s how I express love and kindness.
I write an encouraging note to my husband each night and leave it by his phone, so he’ll see it in the morning. I’ve been doing that for the last 16½ years that we’ve been married. So, I may have missed a few days, but I’ve been 95% consistent with it. His love language (receiving) is encouragement, so those notes have filled his love language tank.
My love language (receiving) is quality time. I don’t need a lot of your time. I just need to know that you are actually listening to me—and looking at me—when I’m speaking to you. My husband’s not like that and he’s had to work on that. His love language (giving) is physical touch. I’m not a “huggy” person, so I had to work on that to fill his love language tank.
Encouragement by a Friend
One of my new friends that I met through Twitter has been an encouragement to me recently. She colored a drawing of sunflowers and sent them to me in the mail. We both have a strong affinity for sunflowers. I love how they are always seeking the sunlight and I want to do that in my life as well.
She has also encouraged me—whether she realizes it or not—to start reading again and working on my latest manuscript. I have always loved to read since I was a child. My love for writing and a career as a writer stemmed from my love for reading. I’ve done book reviews through the years and have published some at the magazine. However, this last year I was so busy with writing work projects and when I took my afternoon breaks, I spent time on social media—a waste of time.
My friend shared that she was starting to spend less time on social media and started reading again. She encouraged me with that and that spurred me on to start reading again. I had a bunch of books already downloaded on my Kindle and started reading during my afternoon breaks. I’ve been reading two chapters a day.
She also purchased my books and said she enjoyed them. I’ve been so busy working for content creation companies writing articles for clients (I have to pay bills), that I haven’t had time to work on any of my WIPs (work in progress). Now that she’s read my three books, I was inspired to try to squeeze in some time during the day to start again on edits to my next mystery novel.
“Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble.” – Yehuda Berg
You may never know the depth of meaning that your encouragement brings to someone’s life. However, that shouldn’t stop you from being a beacon of light in this world today.
“Therefore comfort each other and edify one another, just as you also are doing.” – I Thessalonians 5:11 (NKJV)
Comforting and edifying others comes easy for me. However, there were times that my heart of mercy backfired on me and I let others walk all over me. My husband has helped me become stronger in standing up for myself and I’ve helped him become more merciful (and yes, God was working on us through the years).
When has someone’s encouragement to you helped you through a difficult time or spurred you on to encourage others?
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
Connect with Joanne on Twitter. You can find Joanne on these social media channels—Twitter, Facebook, Parler, Spreely, and Clouthub—with the same username, @JoanneTroppello—and @joannetroppello.mseedsentinel on Instagram. Visit the Mustard Seed Sentinel YouTube Channel.