Jo’s Journal: Five Steps to Take When You Need to Find Yourself Again


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Five Steps to Take When You Need to Find Yourself Again

Simplifying your perspective to get refocused

by Joanne Troppello

When you lose your personal center of gravity, everything in your life can feel upside down. When you feel like you’re in a rut, it can cause unproductivity in both your personal and professional life.

However, you can turn your situation around by taking these steps to help you focus and find yourself again.

“There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” — Aldous Huxley

1. Go back to the beginning

You must simplify things and go back to the beginning. Remember who you are and recall the journey of how you got to where you are today. You may have journaled or written a goal list. If that’s the case, take a look at your journal to see how far you’ve come in life. Review your goal list to identify how well—or not well you’ve achieved your goals.

When you can reconnect with yourself by seeing who you were, who you are today, and who you want to become—you can start refocusing and find yourself again.

2. Reconnect with those in your immediate circle

We all have people in our lives, whether family or friends, who are part of our circle of trust. If you want to find yourself again, reconnect with those individuals who are in your immediate circle.

“My biggest challenge is trust, and really believing that trust, in letting things just happen personally and professionally and trust with myself. But I’m getting better at it.” — Katherine Moennig

These individuals can remind you who you are. They can remind you of all that you’ve accomplished in your life. Sometimes, we simply need to be reminded by those in our circle of trust who we really are.

3. Take time for yourself

Taking “me” time can be effective in helping you find yourself. You may need to take a time out to reconnect with who you truly are.

“Time is the most valuable thing on earth: time to think, time to act, time to extend our fraternal relations, time to become better men, time to become better women, time to become better and more independent citizens.” — Samuel Gompers

Use your “me” time to do something that you’re passionate about. Most states are still in the middle of stay-at-home directives and quarantine life, so you’ll likely be limited in what you can do outside your home.

However, take a walk. If the park near you is open, go on a hiking or walking trail.

Just remember to abide by social distancing recommendations. Read one of your favorite self-help books again. You can be selfish during this “me” time. That’s important so you can productively refocus your perspective.

4. Start something new

You can refocus your perspective by starting a new hobby or trying something you’ve never done before. Consider some of the following things you can do:

  • Learn how to cook

  • Declutter your closet

  • Learn how to paint

  • Start a podcast

  • Take up yoga

  • Start a new exercise routine

  • Destress with an adult coloring book

Taking up a hobby or starting something new can help you take a break from thinking too hard about why you’re feeling lost. It can give you a chance to grow and develop as an individual while challenging you with learning something new. This can be a great stress reliever as you engage on your journey toward finding yourself again.

5. Renew your action plan

The final step in this journey is to renew your action plan. When you create an action plan that clearly defines your goals, you’ll increase the likelihood of achieving better and faster results. As you see progress, this will promote a sense of accomplishment and improve your mood.

An action plan helps you to clearly identify your focus and set key performance indicators (KPIs) so you can more easily ascertain when you’ve achieved objectives. Putting your self-improvement goals in writing, will aid in cultivating augmented time management and help you make better decisions on your journey.

In Summary

To get where you need to go, you must get back to the basics. Improve your success rate by connecting with your circle of trust. Be selfish and take time for yourself where you can learn who you are and what makes you tick—while learning a new hobby. Always be open to change and adjusting your action plan.

Previously published on Medium.

About the Author


Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.


Connect with Joanne on Twitter and join in cultivating positivity in your life and sharing it with others by subscribing to the Sunflower Quest Community.


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