Life Balance: 8 Ways to Increase Your Self Confidence Level

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8 Ways to Increase Your Self Confidence Level

It’s a 3-Part Journey for your Spirit, Soul, and Body

by J.M. Troppello

I did not have a high self-esteem when I was younger. At the age of 14, I had to start wearing glasses. For the first three years of high school, people made fun of me for wearing glasses. I never fit in anywhere. I was a bookworm. My family moved three times during my teenage years, so that meant I went to three different high schools. That made it more difficult to connect with other students and make friends.

Things began to turn around when I went to college, and they became even better in my twenties. I learned how to work on myself and not to worry about what other people thought about me.

“Love who you are, embrace who you are. Love yourself. When you love yourself, people can kind of pick up on that: they can see confidence, they can see self-esteem, and naturally, people gravitate towards you.” – Lilly Singh

As a more mature woman in my forties, I have a much better confidence level than when I was younger. I care even less, what others think about me. If you want to increase your self-esteem, consider the following ways to become a better version of yourself—body, soul, and spirit.

1. Take a Self-Evaluation

Identify your strengths and weaknesses. Focus on increasing your strengths. Don’t get stuck thinking about your weakness. Address them and find ways to improve in those areas. Don’t get stagnated in your weaknesses. Boost your self-esteem by focusing on your strengths.

2. Circle of Trust

Connect with people you trust. Ask for a neutral assessment of your strengths and weaknesses. Be prepared for an honest appraisal. Just remember to focus on your strengths. Accept any constructive criticism with an open mind.

3. Total Body Wellness

You are a spirit, you have a soul, and you live in a body. Work on improving your health in all three areas. Create a 3-part wellness plan. Work on enhancing spiritual growth in your life. Practice mindfulness and become more diligent in your workout routine.

4. Purpose Driven Vision Board

Whether you go old school and make a vision board by cutting out images you like from various magazines—or you use an app—create a purpose-driven aspiration panel. Choose wisely and pick images that inspire you, but also have a purpose. For example, keep in mind the three main types of goals—immediate (up to 3 months), short term (3 months – 1 year), and long term (1 – 5 years).

5. Self-Visualization Conversations

Make notes for yourself with motivational messages and leave them in places you’ll see them at home or your workstation. Download an app that shares an inspirational message each day. As a Christian, I get my inspiration from the Bible. Tap into whatever inspires you to become a better version of yourself.

6. Testing and Inspiration Challenge

Challenge yourself to think outside the box and try something new once a week or a few times a month. This may be scary for some people, but welcome for others. Trying new things can help to boost your confidence level as you challenge yourself to grow as a well-rounded individual.

7. Offer Yourself Grace

It’s crucial that you refrain from comparing yourself to others. Spend less time on social media scrolling through the newsfeeds and spend more time on personal development and engaging with people in real life. When you mess up—and you will—offer yourself grace. Be gracious to others in your life. Deal with the failures in a positive and productive way and move on to new experiences.

8. Splurge on Yourself

If you are able, do something special for yourself and buy a new outfit or take a spa day. Get dressed up and go out to dinner with your significant other or with friends.

Embark on Your 3-Part Journey Today

“Self-esteem is as important to our well-being as legs are to a table. It is essential for physical and mental health and for happiness.” – Louise Hart

It’s possible to build up your self-confidence level when you follow the eight steps outlined in this article. This 3-part journey can be a success when you remove the negativity from your life and surround yourself with positive and productive people.

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About the Author

JM Troppello in Mustard Seed Sentinel

J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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