Life Balance: How to Avoid Being a Toxic Person

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How to Avoid Being a Toxic Person

4 Tips on Becoming a Better Human

by J.M. Troppello

Some people are extremely toxic by nature. They choose to yell instead of talking calmly. Toxic people don’t put others before their own selfish desires. These people react immaturely instead of responding maturely.

“Ego is probably one of the biggest poisons we can have – it’s toxic to any environment.” – Jonny Kim

I used to have those toxic tendencies in my life. I was a mostly calm person until things veered off the path of consistency—then I would be a loose cannon. I had to change a lot through the years by developing a higher emotional intelligence level.

If you want to avoid being a toxic individual, consider implementing the following 4 tips on becoming a better person.

1. Know Yourself

The first step is extremely important. You need to know who you are as an individual. It’s vital that you take a genuinely introspective look into yourself—body, soul, and spirit. Identify your strengths and weaknesses. Be open to constructive criticism. Cultivate a positive mindset that focuses on continuing a lifelong journey of personal growth and development.

2. Understand Your Values

It’s crucial that you know what you believe in and why you believe that way. If you don’t have any convictions, it will be extremely easy for you to fall for anything that your mind latches onto. Learn how to think for yourself. Don’t follow the herd mentality, which can sometimes cause you to engage in toxic behavior. Stand strong in your belief system. Make a promise to yourself to continue to learn something new each day.

3. Consider Others First

Being selfish is easy. Thinking of others before yourself is hard. Yet, when you curb your selfish desires and cultivate a spirit of compassion in your life—you’ll be able to make a positive and productive impact in the world. Always focusing on yourself will only lead you down the road toward toxic behaviors that can hurt others. Embrace that journey of self-discovery. Focus on trying to put others first. Sure, there needs to be a balance. You must take care of yourself as well if you want to be a support to others. Just don’t stay stagnated in selfishness.

4. Communicate Better

Learn better communication skills. Don’t interrupt others during conversations. Make every effort to listen more than you speak. Work diligently on becoming a mature responder and stopping immature reactions to others. I speak from experience that it’s difficult to stop toxic behavior. However, life has become sweeter once I learned how to turn my life around. My faith in God played a huge role in my personal development.

Don’t Be a Toxic Person

“Toxic people defy logic. Some are blissfully unaware of the negative impact that they have on those around them, and others seem to derive satisfaction from creating chaos and pushing other people’s buttons.” – Travis Bradberry

Remember the following 4 tips and implement them into your life’s journey.

  • Know yourself

  • Understand your values

  • Consider others first

  • Communicate better

You can make a difference in the world today when you learn how to become a more emotionally mature adult. The choice is yours. Make the right choice.

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About the Author

JM Troppello at Mustard Seed Sentinel

J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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