Life Balance: How to Deal with Annoying People
It’s Okay to Be Annoyed – Just Don’t Be Rash
by J.M. Troppello
“It’s taken years, but part of my own personal growth has involved deciding that I can learn something from even the most annoying person.” – Auliq Ice
Let’s face it, if you’re like me, you probably have people in your life that annoy you.
It’s okay to be annoyed. However, allowing yourself to be annoyed can cause you to be rash. You’ll likely react immaturely instead of responding maturely.
However, I’ve learned one important lesson in life about being annoyed:
Everyone has issues. I have issues. You have issues. It’s important to show grace.
Now, I know that’s not always easy.
If you need help dealing with annoying people in a mature way, consider implementing the following tips into your mindset for life.
“The problem with people who have no vices is that generally you can be pretty sure they’re going to have some pretty annoying virtues.” – Elizabeth Taylor
If possible, set clear boundaries. If the person is extremely toxic, you should not allow them in your life. Maybe this individual isn’t toxic but is still annoying. You need to create boundaries.
For example, the annoying person might be a family member that you can’t completely cut out of your life. That’s where boundaries come into play. You’ll likely need to have some difficult conversations with this person. However, if you hold back, you’re only going to get resentful, and this person won’t know how you really feel.
Just remember to always share your feelings in an emotionally mature manner that seeks to cultivate positive relationships. Don’t react immaturely and lash out in frustration. That will never foster positive relationship results.
Many times, the best thing you can do is ignore the behavior of this annoying person. Don’t allow them to walk all over you. However, reacting to their annoying actions will only derail your journey toward personal development and positive change in your own life.
You’ll need to redirect your focus onto other more mature people and activities. This annoying person may not be self-aware enough to realize that their behavior is annoying people. Other annoying individuals may like to stir up trouble. They could be acting this way to get a negative reaction out of you.
Don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing that they goaded you into an argument or made you lose focus on your goals.
If you must be around this annoying person often—in family or friend settings or in the workplace—you may want to refocus your mindset. Try to see things from this person’s perspective. This step will likely be difficult. You’ll need to have patience.
Yet, if you can stay the course, you may find that you’ve uncovered why this person has been acting the way he or she acts. Trying to understand their perspective begins with communication.
Just make sure that you start this process with a positive mindset. Don’t get into deep conversations with this person on a bad day. Otherwise, you’ll likely lose your patience and take out your frustrations on them.
When dealing with annoying people, you need to increase your level of self-control. You must maintain this self-discipline in all your interactions with them. Maybe they talk too much. You might not want to deal with their poor communication skills because they constantly interrupt you and speak over you.
Self-control is a vital factor in growing as an emotionally mature adult. It’s something you should strive to achieve. So, if you must deal with an annoying person on a regular basis, at least you know that developing your self-control will help you in all aspects of your life as well.
Learn how to respond maturely instead of reacting rashly. Become a better listener. Don’t allow yourself to look at people with disdain. Becoming more disciplined will help you to interact with this annoying person more patiently.
There will always be annoying people in this world. I’m not being elitist when I write that. There are people in my life who get along well with me and enjoy my company. However, I’m sure there are also people who may think I’m annoying.
Basically, some people will like you. Others won’t. You’ll get along well with some individuals. There will be others that clearly annoy you. As I wrote at the beginning of this article, everyone has issues.
The best way to deal with an annoying person is to follow these four steps. Set boundaries. Ignore their negative behavior. Change your perspective. Develop self-control.
The biggest takeaway is that as you increase your emotional intelligence level, the behavior of annoying people will begin to bother you less and less. They will still be annoying. However, you have changed. You’ve learned how to handle them in a positive and productive way.
About the Author
J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
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