Tips on Avoiding Over-Committing Yourself and Getting Stressed
by Joanne Troppello
Little children have mastered the art of saying “no.” However, as we become adults, we lose the ability to say no and sometimes take on too many responsibilities. We might feel that if we say no, we’re an under achiever.
No is not a bad word. This article will discuss ways that we can avoid the over-commitment roller coaster and try to bring some sanity back into our lives.
Take a Second Look at Your Perspective
Get over your fear of saying no—especially if you have been feeling guilty when saying it. Now, of course, there are exceptions to every rule. You cannot always say no when you’re at work and your manager asks you to do something on a new project.
However, when you find that work life balance and learn how to say no to too many activities in your life that are actually stressing you out, you’ll start to feel better and have more energy—for the things that really matter like your family and friends.
1. Focus on Your Goals
One important way to stand up for yourself and say no when you need to, is to focus on your goals. That process begins with knowing who you are and where you want to go.
Understand your professional goals and make an action plan on how to achieve them. Write out your career development plan.
You need to understand how you can plan out what tasks to complete first and which ones can wait. If your end goals are always at the forefront of your mind, you can more easily put projects on the backburner—and say no to things—in order to keep your sanity. You don’t want to waste time doing projects that don’t have a purpose, when you have more important things to do.
2. Be More Efficient with Your Schedule
Become more efficient at guarding what tasks you add to your to do list. The more efficient you can be at tracking your daily activities, responsibilities, and appointments, you can say no when necessary and only add the right things to your to do list.
Create a to do list that is functional and visible. Consider using some of the following to do list apps like TickTick, Google Tasks, Nozbe, and Todoist.
3. Own Your Limitations
There have been times when I have taken on tasks without thinking through all that would be involved in completing them. You need to know your own limitations before you decide to take on a new project or other family responsibility.
For example, if you want to take on more responsibilities in the workplace, think through your strengths and weaknesses first so that you won’t end up over-committing yourself to a project that you weren’t suited for.
You can balance your skillset and stay current in your career by checking through the tips on this article from The Balance Careers. Keep track of leaders in your field on social media and make a professional development plan to help keep your career goals on track.
Know your own limitations when it comes to your family responsibilities. When you do that, you can ensure that you won’t take on more tasks that will cause you undue stress.
Sure, life is stressful at times and some of it we cannot prevent. However, we should not cause ourselves too much undue stress by taking on too much responsibility—like scheduling too many activities for your kids to participate in each week.
4. Do What it Takes to Find a Balance
Now, you won’t be able to say “no” all the time. However, there are likely more times than not, that you can say no to things. Become your own biggest fan and start looking out for yourself.
Of course, you need to look out for the needs of your spouse and kids—but if you are not paying attention to your needs as well, you won’t find that necessary balance in life.
Don’t use saying no as a reason to get out of a responsibility that you are perfectly capable of completing. Finding that balance means that you will avoid over committing and only commit to the activities and responsibilities that will bring happiness and fulfillment—and you won’t get over stressed.
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is a published author of 3 inspirational fiction novels and the Publisher and Editor-in-Chief of Mustard Seed Sentinel. She has experience as a freelance writer in topics such as marketing, retail marketing, health and wellness, SEO and social media, travel and lifestyle, website content, recommendations for apps, and content for blogs. Visit her Amazon Author Page for more information regarding her books. Connect on Twitter. Read more about Mustard Seed Sentinel here.