Relationships: 5 Tips on Becoming More Vulnerable in Your Relationships

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5 Tips on Becoming More Vulnerable in Your Relationships

It Begins with a Journey of Self-Discovery and Continual Learning

by J.M. Troppello

Vulnerability is a good thing in your relationships with others. Of course, you’re not going to be as vulnerable with a complete stranger as you would be with your spouse or a close friend, or family member. However, cultivating vulnerability in your life can significantly enrich all your relationships in life. This article shares 5 tips on how you can become more vulnerable to enrich your connections with others.

1. Self-Assessment & Learning

The first step toward embracing more vulnerability in your relationships is to take an introspective look at your track record. Evaluate whether you’ve been hesitant to openly share with those closest to you or if it’s been easier for you to share. Ascertain why you’ve had a difficult time opening up. Only you can truly give a response to why and how you’ve behaved emotionally in the past. Sure, you can ask close friends and family members to give their opinion on your level of vulnerability. However, only you will be able to answer why you’ve been able to open up or not. Take the time to learn about yourself and why you behave the way you do.

2. Embrace Spiritual Growth

Growing in your walk with the Lord can help you become more vulnerable in your relationships with others. You may need to ask God to soften your heart to be able to become more vulnerable.

11 O Corinthians! We have spoken openly to you, our heart is wide open. 12 You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections. 13 Now in return for the same (I speak as to children), you also be open. 11 O Corinthians! We have spoken openly to you, our heart is wide open. 12 You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted by your own affections. 13 Now in return for the same (I speak as to children), you also be open. (2 Cor. 6:11-13, NKJV)

I love this passage from II Corinthians. According to an article in Deep Spirituality, Why Am I So Afraid of Vulnerability?, “As Paul explains in this scripture, vulnerability – or as he puts it, ‘opening wide our hearts and holding nothing back’ – is key to building real and meaningful relationships.”

3. Improve Communication Skills

Learn how to communicate in the right way as an emotionally mature adult. Respond maturely rather than reacting immaturely. Find a way to motivate yourself to communicate on a deeper emotional and spiritual level with those in your close relationships. You need to be able to effectively communicate your needs to others. If you are always holding back, that won’t result in true growth in the relationship.

4. Speak the Truth in Love

Telling the truth is always important. However, the truth is not always easy to hear – for you or for others. I love verse fifteen from this passage in Ephesians.

15 but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16 from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love. (Eph. 4:15-16, NKJV)

It's vital to speak the truth in your relationships. However, follow the message of this passage and ‘speak the truth in love.’ Always focus on redemption and the edification of others. That’s how God sees things—He is always set on redemption.

5. Live in an Attitude of Grace

Give grace to yourself and to others. You will mess up. People you have relationships with will mess up. However, when you live in an attitude of grace, it makes it easier for you to be vulnerable with others—and offer forgiveness when necessary. When you’re vulnerable, there are things you may share with others that could hurt you if it’s not received well by the person, you shared it with. You could unknowingly hurt someone else if you don’t handle it well when they are vulnerable with you. Just remember to try to always act in grace to yourself and others.

Open Your Heart

Become more vulnerable by implementing the following five steps into your daily journey. Make the choice to embrace vulnerability in your life.

  • Self-assessment and learning

  • Embrace spiritual growth

  • Improve communication skills

  • Speak the truth in love

  • Live in an attitude of grace

I have not always been vulnerable in my relationships. I’m more of an introvert and closed-off emotionally—except to those in my inner circle of friends and family members. Yet, even in those relationships, it’s been difficult for me to always be vulnerable. However, when I have embraced vulnerability, it’s made a big difference in growing my relationships.

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J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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