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Relationships: 5 Traits of a Good Friend

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5 Traits of a Good Friend

Growing Together in Friendship with Others

by J.M. Troppello

“A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.” – Walter Winchell

According to Science News Daily, “Even before babies have language skills or much information about social structures, they can infer whether other people are likely to be friends by observing their likes and dislikes. Even nine-month-old infants can engage in reasoning about whether the people they observe are friends or not.”

Friendship can be a powerful force of encouragement, motivation, and helping each other through difficult times. Having a true friend is a blessing. That’s something to be thankful for in life.

Traits of a Good Friend

“Friends are the family you choose.” – Jess C. Scott

I have many acquaintances. I have a few good friends. I would choose a few good friends over many acquaintances every time. Through the years, I’ve experienced ups and downs in my friendships. But that’s normal. No one is perfect. Relationships grow and mature through the years.

Consider the following qualities of a good friend.

1. Loyal

One important trait of a good friend is loyalty. Sticking with your friend through thick and thin means that you are a true friend and value the friendship. If you run away at the first sign of trouble or after the first argument, you weren’t truly invested in growing the friendship.

2. Trustworthy

Trusting each other is vital to cultivating deep bonds of friendship. If you can’t trust someone, they’re not a true friend. A genuine friend is someone who will listen when you share a secret or issues you’re working through—and they won’t gossip about it the first chance they get. If you want to be a good friend, work on becoming a more trustworthy person.

3. Communicator

Real friends have no problem talking to each other. With true friends, sitting together in silence is not awkward. Genuine communication is a huge factor in cultivating positive and productive friendships. You need to know that you can openly share things with your friend. They need to know that they can share with you as well.

4. Virtuous

Genuine friendship allows you to speak the truth to your friend. It enables them to speak the truth to you. Sure, both of you may not always like what the other person says. However, you both will value the truth that is spoken. That may not happen in the moment. But once that truth sinks in, you’ll both likely embrace it and be thankful for the genuineness of your relationship.

5. Devoted

True friends want to spend time with each other. They are not too busy to hang out. Of course, everyone has a personal and professional life and cannot be joined together at the hip. However, when you have a true connection with someone, you will want to develop that relationship. The main way to do that is by spending time together cultivating that friendship.

Developing Deeper Friendships

“Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

If you have close friendships, continue growing together as friends.

If you don’t, consider working on these five traits—loyal, trustworthy, communicator, virtuous, devoted—in your own life. As you grow and develop as an individual, you will have more depth to bring to friendships (new or old) in your life.

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About the Author

J.M. Troppello at Mustard Seed Sentinel

J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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