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Relationships: How to Pray Together with Your Spouse

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How to Pray Together with Your Spouse

Prayer Can Empower Your Marriage and Grow Your Love

by J.M. Troppello

“The strength of a man and wife joined together in God’s sight is far greater than the sum of the strengths of each of the two individuals. That’s because the Holy Spirit unites them and gives added power to their prayers.” – Stormie Omartian, The Power of a Praying Wife

My husband and I are both busy with work and various family responsibilities. At times, our joint prayer life has suffered. However, in the last two years, we’ve discussed this issue and have been working diligently to cultivate our prayer life as a couple.

Currently, we’re reading through the book of Romans in conjunction with a lengthy sermon series that our Pastor is doing at our church. After reading a passage of scripture from the daily reading plan and reading the study notes from our Thomas Nelson Study Bible, we spend some time in prayer.

I asked my husband the other day if he’s benefitted from our joint Bible reading and prayer time. I was hoping that he was benefitting from it. He shared that he has felt the benefits like the Holy Spirit reminding him of passages we’ve read. He’s seen growth in his spiritual life.

“Even one person praying can impact a marriage. We were once on a television show with a country singing artist. He told of how his wife expressed her love to him when he was living far from God. She would wrap herself next to him in bed, stroke his chest or his back, and pray blessings aloud over him. At first, he said he was irritated because she knew he didn’t really believe in God. But then he began to see God answering some of the requests. Before long, he began to ask his wife to pray over certain areas of his life and responsibilities. He began to rely on her and those nightly prayers so much that if he was on the road, he’d call home for them.” – Bill and Pam Farrel, Every Marriage is a Fixer-Upper

I love that excerpt from Every Marriage is a Fixer-Upper by Bill and Pam Farrel. I have found this to be true in my own marriage. I’ve done the same thing, praying over my husband after he went to sleep. He goes to sleep before me since he gets up early for work each morning. I pray quietly over him. Sometimes he’s heard me. He knows that I pray for him like that.

I used to think that it might bother him, but he has said that he wants me to keep praying for him. It’s so important to pray for your spouse and to pray together with him or her.

Consider implementing the following ways to pray with your spouse into your daily routine.

1. Decide

Praying together with your spouse begins with a decision. It won’t just magically happen in your marriage. You need to decide to implement consistent prayer in your daily routine.

Your spouse may be on the same page with you regarding wanting to pray together. If your spouse is not ready, pray about it and ask God to soften their heart to want to pray as a couple. Decide to pray together daily and stick to your decision.

2. Plan

After making that decision, you need to put action behind it. Without any action, your decision to pray will end up on the back burner of your life—especially in this busy, fast-paced world.

Take time to discuss this decision. Maybe you have different work schedules and praying at night is better than praying together in the morning. You might both prefer praying in the mornings. You may want to schedule this prayer time on your calendar. I use the Google calendar app to schedule things and sync them to my husband’s calendar.

3. Action

Put your plan into action. Do this right away. Don’t let days and weeks pass by after you discuss your decision and make a plan. If you don’t act and start praying together, you likely never will.

You need to be proactive. Text your husband during the day that you’re looking forward to praying together later that night. Before you leave for work, leave a note for your wife to find saying that you can’t wait for your prayer time that night. Acting on your plan will cultivate a consistent prayer life together as a couple.

4. Reward

Praying together will enhance your spiritual life and your marriage. It’s a time for you both to dive deeper into your relationship and build on your love for the Lord and each other.

When God answers your prayers, celebrate together, knowing that it was a beautiful thing that you prayed together as a couple. When your prayer isn’t answered yet, be an encouragement for each other when discouragement may set in.

Bask in the blessings of cultivating a prayer life with your spouse.

Start Praying as a Couple Today

You must decide, plan, act, and then be blessed with the rewards.

Mary Fairchild wrote a great article, Powerful Prayers for Couples. If you want ideas on Bible-related prayers to pray with your spouse, check out that article. She also shared a “Prayer for Couples Checklist” which gives items like thanking God for your spouse and confessing your sins and repenting.

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About the Author

J.M. Troppello at Mustard Seed Sentinel

J.M. Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.

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