Sunday Inspiration: Don’t Allow Jealousy to Take Over Your Life
Being jealous hurts you, not the person or object of your envy
by Joanne Troppello
“Don’t waste time on jealousy. Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind.” – Mary Schmich
There is truth to this quote. Being jealous is a waste of time. Focus on blooming where you are planted. I wrote about that topic in my article, How to Deal with Change and Bloom Where You are Planted.
I’m not simply spouting platitudes. Life isn’t perfect. We’ve all been dealing with so much this year, 2020. However, if you allow jealousy to take over, that will only do more damage to your emotional health and well-being than you realize.
Consider the following ways to resist jealousy and live in victory, even while you are still going through difficulties in your life:
1. Keep a Thankfulness Journal
Start keeping a journal to record three blessings you’re thankful for each day. Believe me, I know there will be days when you won’t have anything to write in that journal. Life may seem very bleak and jealousy will likely try to creep back in. That’s when you need to dig deeper and think of anything you’re thankful for—even if it’s a family member or that you have a roof over your head. It doesn’t have to be something new that recently happened to you for your benefit. God is always working and providing for our needs, not necessarily all our wants.
2. Stay Off Social Media
You may not be able to stay off social media completely if you’re like me and you use it as a platform to promote your business. I use it to promote my magazine. However, there are times when I’ve been in a rut and scrolled through the Facebook feed and felt insignificant and jealousy started creeping in—simply because everyone else’s life “seemed” so great. The grass is usually NOT greener on the other side. Be thankful for what you have.
3. Help Someone Else in Need
Helping someone in need can take your focus off your own problems and feelings of disillusionment with your life (that you think is lacking so much)—and help you to keep on living. When you help someone else, that can make you happy and feel better about yourself because you’re not sulking in jealousy and being selfish. Instead, you made the decision to think unselfishly and help someone else.
4. Focus on God’s Plans
When I start to get depressed and think my life and all my plans are not progressing as quickly as I wanted them to, I take a step back and focus on God’s plans. You can do the same thing by cultivating your daily Bible reading time and spend more time in worship and prayer.
“Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble. – Matthew 6:31-36 (NKJV)
When you focus on God’s Kingdom and living righteously for Him with the help of the Holy Spirit, God will provide for all your needs. He will bring the increase in His time and open every door that needs to be open so you can be successful in accomplishing His plans for your life.
The Jabez Prayer
And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, “Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain!” So God granted him what he requested. – I Chronicles 4:10 (NKJV)
I pray the Jabez prayer over my life, not every day, but when I remember and feel led to do so.
I truly want to make every moment count in my life until the day I go to Heaven. I can only do this through God’s strength and grace helping me each day. I don’t want to waste any time being jealous.
How do you deal with jealousy in your life?
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is an author, writer, and poet. She is the publisher of the online Christian lifestyle magazine, Mustard Seed Sentinel.
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