How to Deal with Change and Bloom Where You’re Planted
by Joanne Troppello
So, if you follow me on Twitter you probably have seen one of my many tweets in the last few weeks about our recent move. Now, I was not expecting to move, but 2.5 months ago, God had other plans in store—and we are happy His ways are higher than our ways.
“Things change. And friends leave. Life doesn't stop for anybody.” ― Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
I do not do well with change. Just ask my husband or anyone else in my immediate family or close friends. Change scares me. I like to plan. I need to know what is going to happen. Ok, so maybe I am a control freak. That’s something God has been working on in my heart through the years.
However, this most recent change has been welcome. We were living in a temporary situation where we were getting sick due to toxic mold. I’m not going to go into details but will share that God has blessed us with something we weren’t expecting. We are now living next door to my sister and her little girls. God blessed us with a healthy home in the country.
There are adjustments we’ve had to make, such as a longer commute to work for my husband. However, most of the change has been good. Even in just two weeks, we have started to feel better again. Some of the symptoms we’ve been experiencing due to exposure to toxic mold have stopped.
Our hearts, souls, and minds are on the mend. God is so good.
Some Things I’ve Learned About Dealing with Change
1. Become Better Not Bitter
It’s easy to become bitter when dealing with tough situations or having to go through life’s changes—especially if you are like me and don’t handle change well. As a Christian, I have learned to trust God to guide me through the change. Surprisingly, I have started to look forward to changes. Most likely because the most recent life changing move was for the best for us.
2. Bloom Where You Are Planted
When you’re dealing with change, try to be open to all the new possibilities. Be open to bloom where you are planted in the moment. Sure, you may not like all the discomfort of dealing with new family circumstances, or starting a new job, or trying to learn a new skill to compete in the changing workplace. However, if you can learn to bloom where you’re planted, you can face the change in your life. Again, this is one of the foundational cornerstones of my Christian faith—trusting God to guide me step by step.
3. Find a Way to Destress
Change brings stress. There’s no way to avoid physical or emotional stress from changing circumstances. However, you can lessen the effects of the stress by finding positive ways to destress. Start a new hobby, take the time to read more books, spend time outdoors, go on a spa day, and start using essential oils like lavender to destress.
4. Don’t Focus on the Fear
Change can create paralyzing fear in some people. I know. I’ve experienced that paralyzing fear. I have turned to God time and time again to help me through those times when I was too afraid to take the next step into the change that God knew was good for me. Don’t focus on the fear. Focus on God’s Word and keep praising Him through the changing circumstances you find yourself in.
“Be still and know that I am God…” – Psalm 46:10
5. Accept the Change and Move Forward
Finally, you need to accept that change is coming or has come into your life. If you cannot accept that things are changing, you’ll be living in the past and will only serve to make yourself miserable. Remember all that God has brought you through in your life and know with certainty that He will make a way where there seems to be no way.
He is walking with you through each step of this change in your life. It may not seem like it in the moment but accepting the change will be for your best. God has a plan for you and will bring you through every step forward you need to take.
Have you recently been through a life changing experience? How did you deal with that change in your life?
About the Author
Joanne Troppello is a published author of 3 inspirational fiction novels and the Publisher and Editor-in-Chief of Mustard Seed Sentinel. She has experience as a freelance writer in topics such as marketing, retail marketing, health and wellness, SEO and social media, travel and lifestyle, website content, recommendations for apps, and content for blogs. Visit her Amazon Author Page for more information regarding her books. Connect on Twitter. Read more about Mustard Seed Sentinel here.