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The Truth Life: Should a Christian Care About Emotional Intelligence?

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Should a Christian Care About Emotional Intelligence?

Learning About Emotional Intelligence Changed My Life

by Veritas Vita 777

I’ve had some conversations with Christians who don’t think self-help books have any place in the life of a believer. I disagree with those sentiments. One caveat—I hold the Bible (God’s Word) in the number one place in my life for guidance and direction. If anything else I read contradicts God’s Word, I will not continue reading it.

Maybe you’re in the camp of thinking that self-help books have no place in the Christian’s life. You might be okay with those types of books. Wherever you’re at regarding this topic, I hope you continue reading.

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What is Emotional Intelligence?

“Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions. Some researchers suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others claim it’s an inborn characteristic.” – Kendra Cherry

I believe that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened because that happened in my life. I was extremely immature, even into my adulthood. I didn’t have the best examples of emotional maturity during my formative childhood years.

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I got saved at a young age, but had a long way to go learning how to “perceive, control, and evaluate my emotions.”

Does the Bible Discuss Emotional Maturity?

Emotional intelligence is not specifically mentioned in the Bible. However, it definitely is alluded to many times throughout Scripture. Emotional maturity and spiritual maturity are closely linked.

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. (Gal. 5:22-23, NKJV)

Paul speaks about the Fruit of the Spirit (Holy Spirit) in Galatians 5:22-23. What are those fruits?

  • Love

  • Joy

  • Peace

  • Forbearance

  • Kindness

  • Goodness

  • Faithfulness

The NKJV uses the word forbearance but that is the same meaning as the word patience, which is most commonly known in the Fruit of the Spirit list. Those 7 qualities are fruits of God working in your life. But, they are also exhibited through your emotions. Developing spiritual maturity goes hand in hand with developing emotional maturity.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. (Proverbs 15:1, NKJV)

This is one of the verses I memorized during my initial journey of emotional and spiritual maturity. It reminded me that anger was not the answer. That was usually my go to response when life spun out of control. Thankfully, God taught me many lessons – mostly through experiences with other people and circumstances – on how to control my anger.

I love this explanation of emotional maturity by Patrick Mabilog in Christian Today:

“Many people grow physically but remain undeveloped emotionally. But God’s desire is to bring fullness and maturity into every area of our lives including our emotions. The key to emotional maturity lies in understanding and living out the fruit of a mature soul through the work of Jesus Christ.”

I’m glad God worked in my life and is continuing to ‘bring me to fullness and maturity’ in all areas of my life.

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